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I was contacted by someone recently who was troubled by his financial situation, which he felt he persistently sabotaged. He could have treated the symptom and chosen an abundance essence, which would have suited his straitened circumstances better, but he hung on until he could order a personal attunement.

Although an attunement can't have a specific issue as a focus, it simply requires trust that our most pressing patterns will be addressed, the picture which came in as I tuned into his energy showed the underlying cause of his money problems very clearly. He had a pattern of over-giving. Rescuing people, being helpful and being seen to be 'good' gave him a sense of self worth and constantly diverted him from his own goals. He struggled to say no and put down clear boundaries and was also on the edge of physical burnout. It was a classic example of focussing on one symptom - lack of money - which was part of a larger pattern playing out in all areas of his life. He didn't just lack money, he lacked energy in every form, because he couldn't prioritise his own needs enough.

Many of us take on rescuing roles as children because we gain approval for it, but sooner or later a rescuer always becomes a victim, because we need rescuing from our own energy depletion, whether that breakdown shows up in our health, our bank account, our relationship or a series of domestic disasters. If you recognise this role and you want to break the habit, I recommend reading 'The Art of Extreme Self Care' by Cheryl Richardson.

This gentleman's attunement blend, by the way, included something to help him see what was happening, something for courage to assert himself and something for the physical energy and mental clarity to turn things around.

'Thanks for sending the attunement blend. I had to chuckle when reading your notes as all the descriptions were spot on, amazing!' A.M. Interior designer

Are you travelling upstream or downstream in your river of life? If you believe in working hard, if you think that when you don't get what you want then the answer is to 'try harder', then you're paddling upstream. Yet everything we want in our life is downstream and all the great masters understood this; that aligning our energy and desires with source means that life becomes flowing and effortless.

We don't get spiritual gold stars for making life harder. Even though we justify our rewards with hard work, we don't have to earn our success. We're already perfect and deserving - we just have to 'Ask and It is Given'. This runs contrary to everything society and our families teach us, so personally I can never hear the opposing side often enough. Esther and Jerry Hicks have put up a video clip on their website to make this point, so ship your oars, focus on what you desire and click the link below!