Have you decluttered your heart recently? We may often think about clearing our physical space but our emotional space needs just as much attention. In fact, when people physically hoard, they often begin to do so after a major loss because it reflects their inability to come to terms with it and let it go, so the flow of life stops and they become stuck.
The more unprocessed emotion we carry around, the more life feels a struggle. We talk about being 'heavy-hearted' and that's a very good description of how it feels when we can't release painful feelings of grief, hurt and loss.
It's very tempting, especially in a world which encourages us to plaster on a smile and embody a fake persona, to avoid emotional clearing. We're not educated in how to do it safely or encouraged to see it as normal and healthy. We're indoctrinated to go in pursuit of happiness, as though it's outside ourselves, so why would we want to look at pain within? Yet it's precisely when we don't deal with our inner pain that happiness eludes us.
When we're upset, people may hand us a tissue while trying to fix us or distract us with a silent message of 'please stop, I can't cope with this' - usually because it brings up feelings in them that they haven't dealt with. That's why people who've faced their difficult feelings, can sit with you when you're upset without any need to change how your feeling. It's also one reason why therapists have supervision - to ensure they don't project their own issues onto their clients. Whether you're a therapist doing it as professional development or simply for your own evolution we need to keep pushing our own emotional boundaries, if we want to hold a greater space for others to heal.
In this issue you'll find lots of suggestions on how to spring clean your heart
Wishing you evolution,
Nikki Wyatt - The Karma Coach
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The Cycle of Transformation |
Do you secretly wish things could be different but it's easier to bury your head in the sand?
When we want our life to be different we need to remember that every change begins with us. Until we change our own responses each day is Groundhog Day.
They are clear reasons why we develop habits of behaviour and belief and it nearly always has to do with unprocessed emotion. Something unpleasant happens and we aren't able to express our response.
Perhaps we're too young so we haven't yet learned to speak, or our situation makes it unsafe or unwelcome to cry, scream, show anger, disagree or ask for help or reassurance. These feelings then get trapped in our body and next time a similar circumstance arises they're triggered again. In fact we're likely to keep manifesting the same situations in an unconscious attempt to release the discomfort.
In the meantime we constantly try to soothe or avoid the uncomfortable feelings. Perhaps we eat when we're not hungry, or zone out on devices and films, maybe we stay very busy so that we don't have time to notice or we use artificial highs to make life feel more bearable - we may also over-control everything in case the feelings slip through the cracks.
If you recognise this, the way out is a cycle of transformation:
- Commit to releasing the issue, emotion or memory
- Decide on an effective way (or ways) to do it, for example a well-chosen essence, a visualisation, a sound bath, myo-fascial release, EMDR, Brainspotting or simply sitting still and asking your body what it wants to release.
- Allow it to surface without judgement. As soon as you judge yourself for feeling the emotion you recreate the resistance that's keeping it stuck.
- Keep breathing deeply from the belly and, if you feel prompted, move your body. You may need to cry, bash a pillow, dance or stomp about. If it's located in a young part of you, it may help to cuddle a pillow or a toy animal.
- You may want to express your feelings by speaking them out loud or writing them down.
- If you think this may bring up feelings of fear or intense anxiety it's important to make the space safe by having someone you trust with you, whether that's a friend, a therapist or a support group.
- Take time to love the part of you that's been holding onto the feeling - this is when the magic happens. If it feels judged or rejected it will slink off again and you'll be back at square one. When a judged part of yourself feels your love, compassion and understanding it's able to relax and be soothed and accepted. Finally that uncomfortable symptom or hair-trigger you used to have around a certain person or circumstance will disappear because it's no longer needing to get your attention.
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A well-chosen blend of Bach remedies can be very helpful for this kind of transformative work. For immediate relief use Revival Remedy which tackles the five most common reactions to fear, anxiety or shock. Otherwise (or as well) you can have a blend of 8 essences made up that includes:
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Agrimony - if you feel obliged to wear a happy mask when you actually need help because you don't want to burden others with your problems
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Mimulus - for courage to look at your feelings and for compassion when you face them
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Heather - when your feelings come from unmet needs in childhood and you have an avoidance pattern of being busy, overtly successful and/or surrounding yourself with people
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Rock Water - if you cope with your feelings by keeping them on a very tight leash and being extremely self-disciplined and controlled
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Clematis - if you zone out to avoid feeling, so you don't engage fully with life
'Wow that resonates so much and I can really feel the benefit. Just as with attunements in the past you are spot on and your healing gifts are powerful.' Claire, Staffordshire, UK
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Money, Manifesting & Multiple Streams of Income - March 1 |
Is it time to get a handle on your finances? This is a great 4-week course offered by Australian entrepreneur Leonie Dawson. 13 years ago she was in a mess with her own money but since then she's learned a lot and has become a multi-millionaire philanthropist.
Rather than blame yourself, you'll see that we're taught very little about how money works and simply being willing to educate yourself makes a huge difference. Your confidence will build as the course goes on in the company of many others on the same journey.
It's a very reasonable price with lots of mutual support in a lively forum and live Q & As. If you register you have access to all the tools for a year, so if you can't do it all on schedule you can catch up at your own pace. It starts again with live Q & As on March 1.
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Feeling Blue? Try Borage - Crystal Herbs reader offer |
Does life feel a struggle? If your path seems full of challenges and you're heavy-hearted then reach for Borage. It gives 'feeling blue' a good name:) This pretty flower turns discouragement to optimism and a sense that your problems can be resolved.
It's also the ideal choice if your throat is blocked or uncomfortable because you find it hard to ask for what you need. Borage will help you feel safe enough to speak up and follow your guidance. This month it's 20% off at Crystal Herbs.
Reader Offer: Crystal Herbs have identified ten common reasons we restrict our connection to our higher self and they've put the solutions into a set of essence blends called Integrating Spirit.
This month I've negotiated 20% off this set of ten Integrating Spirit essences. Available as 10ml or 20ml. Just use the reader code at checkout. Integration. You can also add other items to your basket.
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Grandmother's Healing Wisdom |
Are you ready to discover more about how you can live your life powered by prayer and blessings, and full of grace?
On Wednesday, February 19, you’ll have a chance to receive a wisdom transmission from one of the most revered Indigenous elders alive today. She’ll share about how you can infuse each moment of your day with reverence for life, connected to your ancestors and with animal totems to guide you.
You can find out more and reserve your free seat for Grandmother’s Healing Wisdom: A Prayer, Blessing & Sharing Circle here
Our featured teacher, Grandmother Flordemayo, has had a remarkable journey from humble beginnings as the 15th child born to a Mayan mother, to an apprenticeship with Don Alejandro, a globally respected elder, and her eventual role in the 13 Indigenous Grandmothers as well as in subsequent councils.
During this free online event, you’ll:
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Participate in a powerful collective prayer
- Understand how to open yourself to be a vessel for healing
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Witness Grandmother Flordemayo’s Sacred Staff, and understand how to create such a staff infused with your own blessings to power your “Sacred Walk”
- Receive Mayan wisdom about aligning with the special qualities of each day, each of which has its own Mayan term and cosmology
- Open to a vision in which we're all co-creating a universal human family
It’s free to attend and you’ll receive a recording if you can’t listen live
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Personal Attunements - 20 % Off
It's always been my greatest pleasure to tune in for people. I feel very lucky to have that relationship with nature.
An attunement is a voyage of discovery. I never know what will show up - only that it will be perfect for you, right now. It may be an essence from a butterfly, bird, crystal, sea creature, flower or tree. Sometimes people tell me it has amazing synchronicity. One lady got a flower essence in her blend that I'd never come across before and it was a flower she had on her table at the time so she must have intuitively known that she needed it. Another got an exotic tropical tree essence and it turned out it was the tree she would climb and seek comfort from as a child, when she lived overseas.
If you'd like your own very special blend, there's 20% off until March 2
What's the difference between attunements and essence guidance? The difference is that attunements are open to the whole of the natural world which creates a unique bespoke blend just for you, whereas essence guidance is restricted to the 65 Spirit of transformation essence blends.
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This six card spread shows you a response to your question, with the lotus tarot deck. Re-shuffle if you wish, then choose six cards and click for the reading.
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Beauty Box worth 90 GBP or 103.50 Euros
For orders that are £40 or 46 Euros or more, you can add this goodie box of Neal's Yard most popular products for only 25 GBP or 28.75 Euros. It includes a facial mist, shower gel, facial polish, travel size wild rose beauty balm, skin salve, remedy to roll, hand cream and body balm.
If you'd like to be the first to hear about Neal's Yard offers, please email or use the update profile link at the bottom of this page to go on the Neal's Yard mailing list
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This man uses far infrared drones in areas where there's been devastation to find traumatised and injured animals. It's wonderful to see how quickly this dog recovers with food, water and kindness.
If Dog appears as your totem in your De Luxe Attunement it brings you the ability to forgive and accept yourself just as you are. Dog reminds you of your tremendous capacity to love and how much you can endure and grow when you're powered by love.
Dog also brings the message to be loyal and truthful to yourself first of all and that, when we come up against difficulties and need to learn from mistakes, kindness is far more effective than criticism.
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Free Enneagram video event Feb 22 - Nine Personality Types |
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The Enneagram is an ancient system of nine personality types based on the nine ways we shut off or diminish our connection to the divine when we're growing up.
Once you've identified which type you are, you'll be able to plot your path back to divine connection and read about the pitfalls you're most likely to meet along the way.
I've found this system really helpful in my coaching practice and constantly refer to it in my own personal growth work. It can be a helpful guide in both personal and work relationships - you'll get a good idea how to get the best from your interactions.
The best book I've found to start accessing what is actually a complex system is The Enneagram Made Easy i t's great for helping you chuckle over your 'flaws'.
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Microjet Filter Shower: You can absorb more chlorine and other toxins via showers and baths than via drinking water, as we breathe in the chlorine gas and absorb contaminants through our warm open pores as we bathe.
Bacteria can also build up in the shower head, so as well as regular cleaning, it's best to let the water run for a moment before using it in the morning, as the first blast is the worst. The same is true of tap water, especially if you have lead pipes.
Deeply Cleansing: The micro bubble technology in this shower head gives greater surface area, so it offers a very deep cleansing action. You may find you need less soap or shampoo.
Breathe Easy: The shower filter neutralises chlorine without using chemicals, so you can breathe with confidence.
Deeply Hydrating: It adds minerals and magnetically charges the water creating absorbable micro-clustered water that hydrates the skin. You'll feel the difference.
Fill the Bath: You can also use the adjustable shower head to fill the bath, then slip in and breathe the energising steam, knowing it's safe - you could even add essences, salts or oils, as they won't be affected by contaminants.
Easy Use: Just unscrew your old shower head and screw this on.
'I took my first bath in the filtered water and it was lovely.....the water sort of sparkled in the tub' Susan, Eastbourne
How to Order - UK You can order online to a UK address - please choose the address knowing a signature's needed. If it's your first online order you'll be asked to register at checkout. Once registered you can also use your Customer ID to order over the phone Mon-Fri 8.30am-5pm on 0800 0132 142. Please tick during registration to say you're happy to be contacted by me or I won't be able to help you.
Do you have a water or air system and need a filter change? For smaller repeat items such as filters, via autoship which gives you 10% off and slightly lower shipping costs. Just email me to set this up.
Outside the UK? Order either by phone on +44 1908 202422 Mon-Fri or online via the international website. Link and instructions here
If you'd like to hear about Nikken offers, please email or use the update profile link at the bottom of this page to go on the Nikken mailing list.
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'Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.' Rumi.
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