Nikki has facilitated Games all over the UK including Bristol,
Oxford, London and Scotland, so just get in touch if you'd like
to suggest a date and venue.
Why play with your partner
It can be very illuminating to play a Transformation Game
with your partner. The Game provides a safe space to share
and to deepen intimacy and appreciation which can enrich your
relationship. Whilst you each have your own, individual Game
intention, the interaction necessary to reach those goals
can clarify and resolve conflict at all levels and allow you
to see, respect and love each other afresh.
'My husband was able to listen and hear. We were able
to reach deeper levels without argument or disagreement.'
Marina
How we deal with pain - A
couple's perspective
The Transformation Game is a board game developed at the
Findhorn Foundation based on Universal Laws and one of its
many fascinating aspects is its ability to show us where pain
can block our path.
During one memorable Game I facilitated between a couple,
the first player landed on one depression square after another,
accumulating stacks of pain tokens and became increasingly
monosyllabic. Her partner constantly landed on squares which
allowed him the option of removing her pain. He always chose
different options saying he had faith that his partner would
find her way forward without his help.
After an hour of this pattern of play, during which she revealed
that this was her pattern in life, to fall into periodic depression
which she dealt with by sleeping a lot and taking anti-depressants,
we broke for lunch. They went off for a very thoughtful walk
together. Whether it was the magic of Regents Park, I don't
know, but when they returned looking lighter and brighter
she threw a three, landed on a Miracle and they sailed through
the rest of their Game with a wonderfully interactive dynamic
that was really supportive of each other's intentions. No
more disguised cries for help and some honest acknowledgement
of the qualities they valued in each other. They had seen
their dynamic so clearly and spoken very honestly about how
they expressed their needs. At the end of the day they said
that for the first time they both felt able to fully commit
to their relationship.
Whilst there are many ways that depression can surface in
our lives, one common way is through ignoring our emotional
pain for so long that we feel numb or become physically ill.
The Game will reflect your relationship with pain, whether
that's at a Physical, Emotional, Mental or Spiritual level.
If your pattern is to pretend it doesn't exist, you may throw
the di, then realise too late that you haven't dealt with
it. In that case the Game rules dictate that, as in life,
it will slow you down or stop you moving forward altogether.
It can be helpful to remind ourselves that our pain is just
our Higher Self trying to bring our attention to something
so we can learn and grow. The more we pretend it isn't there,
the more we lose awareness, miss opportunities to fulfil our
Life Purpose and 'numb out'. As Rafi Zabor puts it 'God
speaks as softly as he can, and as loudly as he has to'.
So the more we take time to listen, the less dramatic our
setbacks need to be; the less we need pain to point out our
growing edge and the more we can use our insight to point
the way.
Facilitating a Game and witnessing people release their limiting
beliefs and blocks and reclaim their joy is my passion.
'I was able to communicate my feelings openly to my wife
without aggression, due to having a mediator' Eric
Why not treat yourself? Make time to travel through the Game
of your Life, with your partner, your friends or take potluck
and meet some interesting people!
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